Tuesday, August 27, 2013

Blaming Billy - Miley's Downward Spiral

Almost didn't even address it....oversold....water cooler chatter.......twitter handled....facebook frenzy....but it needs to said:  Girls need their daddies to be fathers.

Like the rest of the world, I have been the unfortunate witness to Miley Cyrus spiral into degradation.  The beautiful,  talented girl who seemed to have everything that the world values, has represented herself as nothing more than a B film star or a cheap exotic dancer during her latest escapades at the VMA awards. 

Miley of course was not alone.  True to form, Lady GaGa made an obnoxious appearance.  Never will forgive "American Idol" for allowing her to mentor the young wannabes.  But for those of us who dedicate their lives helping girls acknowledge their unique value due to their identity in God, the Miley story is of particular heartbreak...as she could be "any girl."

Sunday night all the world could see was a young woman in desperate need of attention.  A girl who felt her only worth  came from her ability to gyrate, twerk and test the limits.  Even the Will Smith family, who have allowed the sexualization of their own daughter Willow, seemed aghast.

In a 2007 interview with Glenn Beck, the once self acclaimed Christian and father of Miley, is brutally honest.

“Are you at all concerned?” Beck asked the young star’s father, Billy Ray Cyrus, at the time.  “I mean, the odds of Miley turning into Ron Howard — meaning sane — pretty low.  Living in Los Angeles, being a child star — hello? Paris Hilton, Lindsay Lohan, name a million others…”

Cyrus was confident that his daughter had a “great head on her shoulders” and a “great heart.” He also explained that he tries to be her “best friend,” while letting his wife act as the disciplinarian.

“I taught them how to build a good snowman, how to ride a motorcycle, how to ride a horse, how to roast a wiener properly over a fire, and a good marshmallow,” Cyrus explained.  “…But discipline I always left up to the mama. She was really, really good at that. That never was — I never was really good at that.”

Another girl without the love of her father.  Sure Billy liked to spend time with his "best friend" Miley, but did he really give Miley what she ultimately needed, what we ultimately need?  The love and discipline of a father?  No, he did not and in 2007 made no excuses for it- he just wasn't "good at it."

In the nano second busyness of this world, discipline takes more effort than we feel we can possibly give. But parents who love their daughter, love her enough to discipline her too.

I am guessing this week, Billy the father, has a lot of soul searching to do. And so do we, each time we choose not to take the time to lovingly show our daughter the path to righteousness in His Name.

Train up a child in the way he should go, And when he is old he will not depart from it.  

                                                                                                                                Proverbs 22:6

Until Next Time,
Patti

2 comments:

Lola said...

Any man can father (sire) a child, it takes a real man to be a dad (daddy) which is a title that is earned through making the tough decisions to discipline along side the mom and not in lieu of, or none altogether. Parenting is a team effort... what he did was unfair to both Miley and her mother, and a total copout. Whether he realizes it or not remains to be unseen. For the time being, I can only speak for myself when I say, "shame on you BRC, for unleashing this on society" My little ones couldn't even watch the national news this morning because they were showing snippets that of her doing nasty stuff. How is that national news BTW?

Terry Findley said...

I think Miley accomplished her goal--everyone's talking about her. Maybe if we didn't give her so much attention, she'd find a more productive way to live her life. I'm just sad for her.. .

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